Something I have discovered about social media is that you have three groups of moms. In the first group you’ll find the moms who very rarely post, they rarely share photos of their children, they don’t post about their lives, they just leave random snippets of information, quotes, share random articles and such now and then. The second group consists of those moms who seem to have their entire life together and it is perfect. They post the most beautiful pictures of their families and children, they share the amazing and phenomenal things their children accomplish and they just seem to have it all and know it all.
Then you have the third group. The third group shares the good, the bad and the ugly. You see the same posts as the second group, you get the articles from the first group, and then you see the posts about the bad days, the ugly truth…. and there is where you will find me.
I am open and honest, I’ve found that when I find myself looking at the posts from the group #2 moms that I find myself comparing my lives to theirs. I wish my life was more like theirs, so perfect, so together…. and then I realize something. Their lives aren’t perfect, far from it. They’re only presenting the “perfect” parts, they’re only sharing a portion of their life that is together and tidy… and there’s nothing wrong with that, but is it truthful?
I received an ugly message today on my personal profile that berated me for being so negative and sharing ugly posts about my children. And all I could think was, are you serious?! I didn’t even respond, I just deleted this person from my profile and moved on.
So why am I sharing this here now? Let’s get real mommas, let’s not edit our lives and only share the perfect moments. I wholeheartedly believe that other moms need to see the real stuff, the parts of our days that are full of tears, the moments that make us want to scream, the snippets of time when our children are acting terribly and we’re ready to send them to Grandma’s house.
When you share those real moments you are showing another mother that their life is normal. That their life is exactly as it should be, that their children are behaving just as other children do. Share your moments. Share the good, the bad and the ugly. Be real, be truthful, don’t be afraid to share those imperfect moments. Because life is far from perfect.