10 Rules for Dads With Daughters

I’ve been trying to think of some good posts for the month of September, racking my brain and taking notes… we’ve had so much going on, in every kind of way that nothing seemed right. Then I was reminded (not because I had forgotten, but because it just wasn’t at my top list of priorities) that on the 15th J and I would be celebrating our 7th wedding anniversary. Seven years with this incredible man, a man I dreamt of having babies with and growing old with! When we started talking about having babies he always said, “I just want to have a daddy’s girl!” His prayers were answered when our first baby came along, and then he was ecstatic to have new experiences with our second, a boy… and now again, he gets TWO daddy’s girls!

J has been an incredible father, he’s not afraid to do anything with them and those shrieks of glee when they see their daddy pull in the driveway at the end of the day… nothing makes my heart happier. So here we are, I’ve got a blank page ahead of me and I’m going to just spill my thoughts on Daddy’s and Daughters. In a few months I’ll be able to add pictures of J and Bird, but for now, here are 10 rules for Dads with Daughters!

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1. Never stop telling her how much you love her. Tell her when she wakes you up before the sun rises, tell her when she’s pitching one of those world-renowned tantrums (because oh dear… Daddy said no!), tell her when you tuck her in at night (even the 5th or 6th time in the same night). Tell her when she falls down and when she performs her very best ballerina dance. Tell her when she experiences her very first heartbreak, tell her when she starts her very first job, and tell her when she graduates from school. Never, ever stop telling her!

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2. Never stop dancing. Anytime your sweet girl asks you to dance, get to it! Twirl her like a ballerina, make her feel like a princess and always ALWAYS always be her dance partner. Hold her tight, sing in her ear, make a fool of yourself! These will be some of her very best memories of you.

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3. You’re already telling her how much YOU love her, so don’t forget to tell her how much Jesus loves her. Teach her about his incredible, unfailing love. Share his miracles and his ultimate sacrifice. Raise her to know Him and to love Him as much as you do! Nothing will strengthen your relationship more than sharing Christ’s love with her. And don’t forget that He loves you too!

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4. Love her mother, show your daughter through your actions what it means to love your wife. Show understanding, show patience, show adoration… hold and your kiss your wife in front of your daughter, make peanut butter sandwich hugs with your daughter (she’s the peanut butter!). Teach her that a Godly man treats his wife with love, care and respect. Someday she’ll look for a man like YOU to spend her life with.

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5. Show an interest in the things that she loves, even if truly you’re not all that interested. If she likes to play with dolls, learn to dress them. If she likes to bake, learn to bake. If she likes ballet, dance with her. Whatever she likes to do, show interest and experience it with her. You have NO idea how much it means to her!

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6. Don’t compare her or treat her differently than your sons, or boys in general, she is her own person… and she can do whatever a boy can! If she wants to play sports, encourage her, if she wants to be an engineer, a policeman, a firefighter, any job that you typically see men in… build up her confidence and support her! She can do it!

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7. Pray for her. Pray for her daily, pray for her present, pray for her future… even pray for her future husband! Lift her up in prayer every opportunity that you get, there is no greater gift than that of prayer.

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8. Tell her no. I know… how dare I tell you that you should say “no!” to your precious girl. Trust me, learning when to say no is good for both of you. She’ll thank you for it someday.

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9. Go easy on the material gifts… sure, one here and there is great… but what really matters is time. Spend time with her, good quality time. Take her on daddy/daughter dates, teach her some of YOUR favorite hobbies, bond with her, play with her. Make MEMORIES!

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10. Don’t blink. Just don’t. Before you know it, that little girl who danced and twirled standing on your feet, who leapt into your arms for Daddy bear hugs, and who always ran to you to dry her tears… she’ll be a young lady, and then someday a woman. Someday you’ll be walking her down the aisle and giving her away. So treasure her and every moment of her childhood. Don’t blink.

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Love These Babies!

It’s been a while since I really posted about life and the kids… and myself in general. Sure, there have been posts here and there updating on the kids and such, but I’ve neglected what I wanted this blog to really be about. I do love sharing reviews and giveaways, but that’s not what I want my sole focus to be.

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Our family is growing very quickly before my eyes! That also means new challenges and phases to learn and work through. I realize that as our children get older each age will show different and harder challenges, but so far, with our experience…. age 3 is ROUGH.

Boogie is really coming into her own, she’s also incredibly headstrong, stubborn and her emotions run high. She’s very tender hearted, as she has always been… I have a feeling that her teenage years will be full of a rollercoaster of emotions, and someday, when she starts having babies, her pregnancies will be as emotional as I have found myself during mine. At age 3, she has definitely started challenging J and I when it comes to discipline and respect. She’s pushing boundaries, pushing our patience, and she constantly makes me question whether I’m doing the right thing as a parent or not. It’s HARD… but she’s also teaching me so much about being a mother, I love that she is my oldest and that she and I are learning together. My beautiful girl is going to be a remarkable young woman, I know that with all the things she is showing me at the tender age of 3, that she will be a strong and determined woman.

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Bubby… oh sweet, adorable Bubby. This boy of mine, we are constantly joking that God made him awfully cute for good reason. As Bubby says when he gets scolded or in trouble, “naughty, naughty!” Indeed… this child is naughty! Not to say he isn’t also incredibly sweet and well mannered most of the time, but he is constantly keeping me on my toes. He gets into EVERYTHING, we think we have everything Bubby proofed and then BAM! He finds something else to get into. It’s insane! That’s been really new for us, Boogie never really got into anything once we toddler proofed our home, he’s been an entirely different story however. But as many times as I’m running to get him out of a mess or chasing him down to clean him up, I find myself, twice as often, in fits of hysterical laughter. This kid is hilarious, and he has a smile that just SCREAMS of naughtiness.  We took the kids to a blueberry patch yesterday and the ENTIRE time, Bubby was just shoveling berry after berry into his mouth. He had absolutely no interest in picking and putting them in our baskets. This kid is amazing, I can’t wait to see the joy he brings to the rest of our lives.

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I am so blessed to have these babies call me Mommy, Baby Bird is going to have the best big sister and brother she could wish for. They might drive me absolutely insane some days (like today… as I’m trying to do my best to rest so I can get rid of this awful plague that J was SO kind to share with me) but the best days outweigh the worst!

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Move & Groove Review

I’m always looking for ways to keep my kids active, especially when it’s too hot and humid (which it can be very much so where we live in the summer) or too rainy out to play. So when I saw this toy/game….. I had to try it! IMG_3419

Sorry for the grainy picture, I couldn’t get her to sit still long enough to grab my camera so I used my iPhone!

Anyways, this is the Move & Groove, Your Child’s First Dance Game. Boogie absolutely loved this! Bubby didn’t totally get it, though I think once we play it a few more times he’ll get the hang of it (he’s 20 months). You have a deck of cards with 6 different colored categories, you use the plush die to roll for a color and draw a card from the coordinating color. Some of the cards include dancing like a duck, dancing the disco, play the air guitar, etc. We blasted Pharrel’s “Happy” and Boogie danced her tushy off. She had an absolute blast playing this game and begs to play it daily now! It’s a great, fun way to keep them active and have fun at the same time. I highly recommend this game, especially if you are needing something for those yucky rainy days!

This game is recommended for children 18 months and up, though like I said, it’s taking Bubby (20 months) a little longer to get the gist of it. This game is super beneficial to help build your child’s gross motor skills, balance, and coordination.

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You can purchase this game (and many others) directly from Think Fun or from their Amazon page for $19.99 Great price for a fantastic game!

I received one or more of the products mentioned above for free using Tomoson.com. Regardless, I only recommend products or services I use personally and believe will be good for my readers.

30 Things – How I Felt When I Became a Parent

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Tonight I’m going to tackle question #19 – How did you feel the moment you became a parent?

(Again, you can find the original 30 Things My Kids Should Know About Me post HERE!)

And really… why do I try these challenges? I totally missed yesterday, I’m the worst at keeping up with these! Oh well… I WILL finish, it just won’t be in 30 days lol!

Oh man… you just don’t know what it’s going to feel like until you have your first child in your arms, it’s incredible. And for me, I felt differently at the birth of Boogie and Bubby… and I imagine it will be different still when Baby Bird arrives as well! When Boogie emerged into the world I felt pure, uninhibited joy. She was the most beautiful baby girl I had ever laid eyes on and I couldn’t believe that God had blessed me to be her mother. With Bubby, the emotions were even more intense, and I can guarantee you it was from having an all natural birth. I didn’t adore him or love him more than I did Boogie, but wow… I felt like super woman! The first thing I said to my husband and Janelle was “I DID IT!” And I was then the mother of my sweet Boogie and my handsome Bubby. He was precious, so sweet and cuddly… it was phenomenal. I love giving birth 🙂

We Downsized… AGAIN.

You may remember a previous post about how I went on a rampage through my children’s rooms and got rid of a TON of stuff. Well, that went really well actually. At the time Boogie and Bubby had separate rooms and they each had a few things each to play with. Well… J and I made the decision to put them in the same room (the bigger of the two) and create a nursery for Baby Bird in the smaller room. That got the changing table and her drawers and such out of our room, and then just the co-sleeper will be in our room until she’s old enough to sleep in the crib.

(My apologies for the grainy pictures ahead… I had my phone on hand and just used that!)

The problem was… combining all of their toys was becoming an issue. So, I didn’t throw out stuff, instead, this time we are rotating. Boogie has an Ikea kitchen with assorted foods and such, a dollhouse, a dress-up bin, and her babies. She will be rotating the kitchen, dollhouse and dress-up bin every Saturday night.

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As for Bubby, we decided to put away his train table, tracks, and small trains for the time being. Boogie was the main one to play with those, so we left out the few small trains he enjoys and his larger, chunkier trains. When he is older, and the girls start sharing a room and he gets a room to himself we’ll bring those things back out. He also has his balls, hats, stacking train and rings, and a big fire truck and plane.

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In the living room we were going to bring down the two shelves of books (one has board books, the other has regular books), instead we are going to keep a basket of board books, a basket of regular books, and a basket of their little books out and rotate those with the ones upstairs every Saturday night. We also have three different kinds of blocks: wooden blocks, mega blocks and bristle blocks. So we will rotate those every week as well.

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So far… today things are going slightly better, now if we could just get Bubby to understand that hitting, biting and smacking are NOT OK!