5 Ways to Calm Your Threenager

5 Ways toCalm YourThreenager

Haha… yes, I can hear you laughing from miles away. Calm a threenager, it’s an oxymoron right? Some days, yes. It totally is. But I promise you, that if you really want to calm that child of yours down, it can be done! I never knew what it was like having a true threenager. Sure, Boogie had an attitude and was a little sassy, but she had nothing on her little brother. This child is a screamer, he will throw his body on the floor, get so angry that his entire body shakes… it’s insane. So, if you care to try, here are 5 ways to calm your threenager (Bubby style!).

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This one is pretty obvious, one of the best ways to calm those crazies down is to get outside! I know it’s getting colder now, you have to bundle up and there’s layers of clothing that have to be put on. But if you can manage to make that happen, do it. Then run. Play. Jump. Swing! One of my favorite ways to get some of that “all boy” energy out is by having him and Boogie run around the house as many times as they can. They will race and race until they can’t run anymore. Most of the time, even in the midst of a terrible fit pitching, all I have to say is, “Let’s go outside!” and that little light bulb turns on over Bubby’s head and he’s running to get his shoes on. Try it!

2. Go On a Date

This one can be a little trickier. Obviously you don’t want to reward poor behavior, but sometimes our threenagers need some one on one attention. Typically, especially with my sweet boy, his tantrums and behavior is triggered by the craving of that one on one attention. This is a hard one for us, especially during November and December when we have the holidays and about a million other things planned. Trying to find even a half hour when J can hang with the girls or vice versa is difficult. I hope to do this more often with Bubby and the girls as well. They all need mommy dates and daddy dates! And Bubby especially enjoys going out for Superman ice cream!

3. Keep Them Busy

There are so many ways you can keep them busy. If Bubby is in the middle of a terrible tantrum, sometimes I can pull out an activity like this and say, “When you’re ready to calm down, I’d love to try out this {insert activity}”. Most of the time he’ll calm down after a few minutes and is ready to participate. Some of the things I use are this Melissa & Doug Sort & Snap Color Match activity (affiliate link), sensory bins (I haven’t actually tried this one as of yet, but I have big plans for this great sensory table my mom bought for us! I know it will help drastically!), crafts, bristle blocks, etc.

4. Rest

I get it. Naptimes can be an absolute nightmare with these threenagers. Trust me, I know this all too well. I also know that if my boy doesn’t get his nap in, there will be worse things to deal with later in the day. So, fortunately for us, Bubby goes down pretty easy most days after lunch. Then again, there are those few days every now and then when he fights it tooth and nail. So here are a few things I’ve tried:

  • Snuggle on the couch with a good book or a movie, most of the time Bubby will pass out because like I said… he still needs that nap!
  • Have a slumber party naptime in the living room – this is what you’re looking at in the above picture. I had Bird on my lap nursing, Boogie was on the couch reading a book and Bubby had finally passed out in the floor.
  • If you absolutely cannot get your kid down for a nap and they are STILL flipping out… turn down the lights, place a few books, soft toys, etc in their room… place threenager in said room and WALK AWAY. Believe me, I’m not a fan of crying it out, not even with my older ones. However, sometimes all you CAN do is walk away. If they’re safe, have everything they need to be healthy and loved…. then please, just walk away. I believe that Bubby needs that alone time sometimes, it allows him to calm down and just have a moment.

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In the midst of some of Bubby’s worst screaming sessions I have gotten down in the floor, scooped him into my lap and just held him. Yes, sometimes he pushes me away and tries to hit and kick… but if I hold him and love on him and sometimes sing to him, after 5 or less minutes he starts to calm down. His heart slows to a normal rate, that’s how I know when this method is going to work to calm him down, with his chest pressed against mine I can feel that begin to happen. His rigid little muscles straining against me start to relax, and finally he just snuggles into me. Touch is such a powerful tool for our little ones, hugs and smooches and cuddles are one of the best ways to calm a crying baby, so why not use it to calm our threenagers as well? A great way to snuggle is to wear your kids! Yes! You CAN wear your threenager, a great way to do so comfortably is by using a woven wrap or a Beco Toddler (affiliate link), as seen in the picture above.

 

Thanks for stopping by to check out 5 Ways to Calm Your Threenager! What are some of your best ways to calm down your threenager?

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Renuzit Pearls Scents Revie and Home Style Challenge

Give your home another depth of beauty with the pleasing aromas of Renuzit® Pearl Scents®. The new look was designed to accent and highlight your home decor as well as provide long-lasting freshness. Scents include Pure Breeze, After the Rain, Tranquil, Serenity and Seductive Pineapple. I was sent the After the Rain and Tranquil scents to try as well as a gift card to TJ Maxx to revamp one of my rooms!

We moved into our house a year ago, so most of our rooms are designed the way we like now (aside from some paint), but we just purchased a patio set for our front porch and decided it would be nice to have a set of dishes to use for our date nights out on the porch! We have most of our dates at home, after the kids are in bed… so this was perfect!

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We bought a serving platter, two dinner plates, two dessert plates, two small bowls, two small tumblers, a pitcher and a set of three citronella candles for $50 at TJ Maxx! Not pictured is my Tranquil Renuzit Pearl scent… I forgot to set it out for the picture!

Here’s to many lovely date nights with my man!

The Unveiled Wife Book Review

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I’ve been following The Unveiled Wife for a few years now and found her posts inspiring and close to home. She shares her faith, marriage and life like an open book and I truly appreciate that about her. She does no different in this book about her relationship with her husband and how her faith has helped in her intimacy with him.

When you first get married you have big dreams about what your life is going to entail, that includes how you simply will just live with your husband… and most of the time, and I don’t mean this in a bad way, but you usually become a bit disappointed that real life doesn’t really match up to your dream life.

This book would be a great gift for young newlyweds or brides to be, I really enjoyed reading this and learning more about Jennifer. It also was nice to read something so open and honest that opened my eyes to some of my own disappointments early on in my marriage.

I received a free copy of this book in return for an open and honest review. All opinions stated are my own.

The Old Fashioned Way Book Review & Giveaway

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The Old Fashioned Way (Reclaiming the Lost Art of Romance) was inspired by the new movie Old Fashioned that will be in theaters on Valentine’s Day 2015! Many times we hear the words “old fashioned” and we think of gentlemen opening doors, modesty, no sex before marriage… and while all of those things are wonderful, having an “old fashioned” relationship is soooo much more than that!

When my children get to the age where they want to start courting or dating the person they hope to marry, THIS is what I want them to be hoping for. A true old fashioned relationship, courting, “dating” for the purposes of marriage. Today, dating has become a sport, it’s not about love anymore, it’s about just having someone to kiss, go on dates with, etc. Purchase your copy HERE.

Check out the preview for the movie here:

Now you can win a copy of your very own! I was given a copy for the purposes of reviewing it (all opinions expressed are mine and mine alone), but since I’ve finished reading it and think it’s better suited for someone looking for a relationship or in the beginning stages of a relationship I’d like to share my copy with one lucky winner! So just enter in the widget below for your chance to win!

Team Us: Marriage Together Book Review & Giveaway

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I am SO excited to be sharing this book with all of my readers. J and I have been looking for a book to read together as a couple, not because we are necessarily having any issues, but just because having three young children we don’t really get the alone time we used too. This allows us to create that time together, even if it means reading separately and coming together to discuss it!  I am on Chapter 4 of this book so far, it’s taking us a while to get through it, because like I said, we’re reading the chapters together but SEPARATELY. Meaning we each read a Chapter and pass it back and forth. We have actually taken to answering the questions of each chapter in a notebook that we pass back and forth as well. Should I reiterate again that we do so because of these three wee babies of ours that need our undivided attention? Ha!

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This book is not only a guide to help you and your spouse to become an undivided TEAM, but it’s REALLY a good read. Ashleigh has created a book that will pull your attention in and have you laughing and nodding your head “YES!”. Her husband even has some thoughts throughout the book. Trust me, you’re going to LOVE this book!

When you get married you ultimately know that you are coming together in a partnership or team, but as life goes on and well… life itself gets in the way, you may find you and your spouse living together but not working together. You can unintentionally find yourself becoming a “me” and “you” instead of an “US”. Head on over to Ashleigh’s BLOG or WEBSITE to learn more. On the website you can purchase the book or even read an excerpt to see if this book would be a good fit for you and your spouse.

Now you can enter to win a copy of this awesome book! As usual, please remember that I do validate all entries, so please be truthful and honest when entering this giveaway. This giveaway is open to US and CA residents only, the first entry is mandatory (asking for your contact information) – this allows me to immediately submit the winner’s info to the sponsor! Good luck!

Disclosure (in accordance with the FTC’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising”): Many thanks to Propeller Consulting, LLC for providing this prize for the giveaway. Choice of winners and opinions are 100% my own and NOT influenced by monetary compensation. I did receive a sample of the product in exchange for this review and post.

Only one entrant per mailing address, per giveaway. If you have won the same prize on another blog, you are not eligible to win it again. Winner is subject to eligibility verification.